Your best life is not your perfect life. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that living your best life is living a perfect, stress free, balanced life. That’s not living your best life, that’s more like living a fake life. Look, life is challenging. We get sick, we get tired, we are overworked and underpaid. We have tragedies and loss. We get hurt, we fail, we make mistakes. This is not just your life, this is everyone’s life from your best friends to favorite blogger to your football hero. The difference between the people you see living their best life and you struggling with living your best life are things such as activity, goal setting, self care, people and mindset.
A positive mindset will result in positive actions (and reactions) which will then start allowing more positive energy and experiences into your life. This is not my idea or opinion, this is a theory that has been written about and proven for more years than we can count. You will find endless books, videos and testimonies on this theory. Once I began the process of changing my mindset, I believe I started living my best life. It takes patience, consistency and practice, just like anything else. Use your failures as lessons. Some people will call bullshit on this and others will dive in and that is the difference between living your best life and living your actual life. My best life (and myself) is no where close to perfect. I have huge flaws, I get frustrated, I make mistakes, I cry, I get sick and I fail. I have stress, anxiety and challenges. I am still living my best life.
Sometimes I am irrational, and so I surround myself with people who are rational and will help me sort out my irrationality. My husband, on the other hand, is more rational and he is usually the calm to my crazy. I try to surround myself with people who have depth, purpose, goals and who are kind, helpful and supportive of others. When your actual life is filled with people who are constant complainers, Debbie downers, negative Nancy’s and Troubled Tom’s, you really can’t live your best life. You are surrounded by negative energy and that will only bring more negativity into your life. Surrounding yourself with people who take action, people who have ambition and morals, people with integrity, will help you live your best life. The old saying “birds of a feather flock together” is accurate. We are the average accumulation of the 5 people we are around most. So take a look at the people you surround yourself with and adjust accordingly.
Before my medical issues in 2009 I did not take much time, if any. for self care. I didn’t exercise or eat great. I didn’t read as much as I used to, I didn’t journal or pray often, meditate or try to learn anything new. Think about it, your actual life may include 3 or more hours of TV and social media daily. Your actual life may include partying, wasting time on facebook or working so much that you are missing out on your life. Imagine all the great things you could be accomplishing in that time! Fitness for your health, reading for your mind, meditation for your sanity, writing for your memories and so many more incredible things. Heck, you can even learn a new language or start a side hustle in those hours! Even if you are glued to the tube 2 hours a day that is 14 hours a week! There are so many fantastic things you can do with 14 hours to live your best life.
So, know that living your best life and all the hype surrounding it does not mean living a perfect, balanced life. It is simply you, really, trying to be a better you,amidst the chaos, in all areas of your life.